I’ve written “How to get started” in the planning process probably a half a dozen times but nothing prepared me for my own engagement. In the beginning, like most, I had some difficulties just wrapping my head around where I need to get started and what my first steps were going to be. Being a wedding planner, I’ve dreamt about my wedding (as I’m sure most girls have) for many years. My first struggle was to balance my dream wedding with what my new fiancé wanted. This will be my fiancé’s second wedding and he is not a fan of the spotlight; so he wanted to take a trip to New Zealand and have a destination wedding with our five closest family members.
So, destination or traditional was the first hurdle to jump in the wedding process. Even if we had a destination wedding, we could come back and have an amazing reception. But, what about my close family that couldn’t make such a trip? Okay! Mexico! Mexico isn’t anything crazy that will still provide a distant feel. We then started naming off all the people that would come and we ended up around 50 people… and at that point it wouldn’t really be an intimate destination feel like we wanted. For me, the issue of the number of people was less important as that I couldn’t have my dream dress (as ball gowns aren’t the best for beach side weddings).
There are some benefits of having a destination wedding. If you are a less-traditional couple you won’t have an obligation of creating large wedding parties, huge family photos, and it is less expensive. The ceremony doubles as your honeymoon that you were already going to take anyways. Most resorts have a wedding package that comes with a bouquet, venue, and often room discounts or upgrades for your guests. Even if you have a reception at home (which isn’t required) you can really scale it back by doing heavy cocktails rather than a full dinner, less décor, and cut back on the typical vendors such as a photographer.
In the end, we weighed the costs and the benefits of a destination wedding verses a traditional wedding very closely and decided to do a traditional wedding. First of many decisions have been made… Now onto the time of year and guest count.