Practice makes perfect. Everyone has heard this saying and it was likely when you were struggling as a child in sports or school. You probably have come to appreciate when hard work pays off in the end. Well, I'm sorry to tell you this way but practice does not make perfect when it comes to your wedding. Let me tell you a story...
In January I was working a wedding at the Sentinel Hotel. Now, I was helping out another wedding planner, Lisa, for this particular wedding because it was her cousin getting married. Lisa and the bride hashed out most of the details and I was filled in just prior to the wedding about the specifics. The couple had decided to do an Around The World theme because of their extensive traveling they had done together. They expressed this theme through creating these painted pallets with photos and memories each of which represented a place they have been. Now there were about 5 of these 3x4 foot pallets. Lisa and the bride walked through how the tables were going to be displayed and even bought really sturdy easels to hold the pallets. Now on the day of the wedding when we tried to prop the pallets using the same easels that they did when practicing it wasn't nearly as stable as one would had hoped. Because of the skinniness of the table and how it was positioned next to the wall, the pallets were simply too top heavy to be safe on the easels. For the next thirty to forty-five minutes; myself, Lisa, and two banquet staff members tried different ways of propping these statement pieces. After some time we finally came up with the solution on using the bottom half of bistro tables and wedging the poles into the corners of the wall for stability. That's right, 4 people (all with YEARS of experience) took 45 minutes to solve this one issue. This issue was going to happen regardless of the number of times practiced. The conditions at any event can never be predicted and can never truly been perfected prior to the wedding.
Now let's take a second to think if there wasn't two coordinators working that day? What if it was you / your mom / your maid of honor in that situation where they're now stressing out because one of your staple decor items isn't working how you envisioned it. Would they have abandoned your vision and have laid them on the table and gave up or would they have been 45 minutes late? Which one is worse?
I don't care how many times you've been a bridesmaid or how many times you've helped a friend set out flowers at their wedding. I don't care how many times you've practiced it. There is no reason for a bride, a mom, or a friend to go through the stress of making a wedding perfect. You will need help- professional help. While practice doesn't make perfect the experience does make you smarter and a little more resourceful the next go around. I'm hiring a day-of coordinator for my own wedding because I know I don't want to deal with that stress on the day of. I want to be sitting back and drinking mimosas while I get my hair & make up done. I'm not saying you need to hire me - but you need to hire someone. Someone that is NOT a guest and someone with actual experience running weddings specifically (they are a different beast than typical corporate events). Hire because you never know what will go wrong. Practice makes progress... Not perfect.
Thanks for stopping in and I'll try to be little more on top of this whole blogging thing.